Today we talk resilience with our Resident Anxiety Coach Sarie Taylor and ask if our children are more resilient than we give them credit for? What are we actually talking about when we say resilience. Well, resilience is our ability to recover from any challenging situations, and the speed at which we do or don’t bounce back. We often wonder whether we will ever be the same again after we face overwhelm and stress. And as parents we particularly worry about the ‘damage’ that any of the challenging situations we face will do to our children. Human beings are survivors by nature We are not the same person we were yesterday. Everyone is a result of every day experiences, some good, some much more challenging, however we do manage these situations much better than we give ourselves credit for! The same goes for our children. You may not talk about your child’s lack of resilience directly to them. But when we are talking about our children’s anxieties, worry and stresses, we are talking about the opposite of resilience. Of course we don’t intend to highlight the negative rather than the positive, it’s often a habit out of fear and wanting to protect our children from everything. It’s so easy for us to fixate and focus on what we want to change. But this means we can also miss out on seeing what we do have and this only makes us an expert in our problems and worries. As human beings we are survivors by nature. It’s inbuilt in our system, and despite feeling uncomfortable when we are faced with change or challenges, we are OK and we do manage. Although as parents our children are our priority, we must also take care of ourselves. Only when we see our own strength and resilience, will we really see it in our children. We only ever see them through our own eyes, our perception. The more able we are to access our well being as adults, we will then see that our children are innately well too, regardless of their times of overwhelm. If we continue to point our children in